Can’t Find The Perfect Mate? Marry Yourself.
"Strike me blind, I've seen it all." A friend of mine used to say that when something outrageous would happen. I've found myself using that phrase more and more recently. Like when a Louisiana state senator told a Louisiana state representative to "f--- off" at this year's legislative session. Or the "cash me ousside" girl going viral.
Now I say it again because--I don't know if you've heard--people are now marrying themselves. There's even a name for it--sologamy. And it's legal--sort of.
Back in May a news story made the rounds about a woman in New York named Erika Anderson who married herself with her parents in attendance. The ceremony is legal, but non-binding. In other words there are no states in the country that recognize sologamy as an actual thing.
So that means you can divorce yourself anytime you want without the process getting all messy with legal entanglements. Don't know how you would split community property with yourself, though. Like who would get the wedding ring--the left hand or the right? On the other hand (pardon the pun), you don't get the perks of traditional marriage like tax breaks or estate planning benefits.
Anderson was quoted as saying, “I would describe it as women saying yes to themselves. It means that we are enough, even if we are not partnered with someone else." It's like the ultimate result of a Stuart Smalley bit on Saturday Night Live--"I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, I like me."
This apparently is not an isolated incident. The movement, or dare I say "fad", has gone global. And inevitably there are companies popping up that are trying to capitalize on it. According to television station WUSA-TV in Washington, D.C., a Canadian company called “Marry Yourself” offers consulting and wedding photography. Here in the U.S. there's "IMarriedMe.com" which is marketing sologamy ceremony kits which include things like a wedding band, and sample vows.
So, if you can't seem to fight Mr. Right or Miss Perfect, you can always just walk down the aisle--with yourself.
Strike me blind, I've seen it all.