The Honeymoon Ends…and It Only Takes 3 Years
For years, the joke has always been, “The Honeymoon is over”. And according to a new study, it only takes 3 1/2 years before it starts to show.
So what are the indicators?
- You don’t make an effort to eat dinner together.
- Can the cuddling, you go to bed at different times. That leads to less romance in the bedroom
- You go out with friends more than each other. This includes sitting other rooms in the same house.
- You stop trying to look good for each other. That means women don’t worry about wearing make-up or nice underwear . . . and men wear sweatpants
- Men don’t worry about closing the door when they go to the bathroom. (and yes, ladies, you do it too)
Kate Jones of Co-operative Food, which commissioned the study, said,
“We all know that it’s the little things that make a big difference, so adding a bit of quality time, like re-introducing ‘date nights’ or enjoying a meal in together, could be a good way to show you care.”
More problems in the relationship can be found for couples who have been together for a while that they admitted to forgetting major events such as birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine’s Day.
Before you start saying, “Ah Ha, that is why the divorce rate is so high”, two thirds of couples believe they have a strong marriage.
So why in the heck would you leave the bathroom door open or wear granny pants? Believe it or not, a massive 90 per cent of people said they only do these things because they feel so comfortable with their partner. Then you look further, three quarters of couples even saw being taken for granted as a normal part of a long relationship.
“Bad habits begin to creep into the relationship, such as breaking wind in front of each other, showering less, women forgetting to shave their legs, not closing the bathroom door when using the toilet and leaving the toilet seat up.
“Far from those bad habits being a sign that the relationship’s on the rocks, it looks as though taking each other for granted can be a sign of security and comfort, and you don’t need the reassurance of saying ‘I love you’ all the time.”