Is Facebook Ruining Relationships?
Social networking has become completely integrated into our modern life. All you have to do is look around and you will find countless people with their face lighted with the soft glow of a touchsceen as they post pictures of their latest meal or complain about the person who is standing mere inches away. It's gotten to the point now that if you encounter someone in the real world who doesn't have a Facebook account, it's shocking.
"How am I ever going to communicate with you if you're not on Facebook? I don't even understand how you can leave the house!"
Now, because Facebook has become so ingrained in our everyday life, it is being blamed for the breakdown of relationships. Attention given to the phone, ease of cheating, and even commenting (or not liking) posts have all been called out as reasons for Facebook ruining relationships.
I personally had a girlfriend get really angry when she found out I had reached out to my childhood crush...who lived 800 miles away...and I hadn't seen since we were 15. No matter how much I had proclaimed my innocence, she was not hearing it. We broke up later.
A recent survey from StopProcrastinating, a research and evidence based website, has given some hard numbers to this phenomenon..some of which might surprise you. Some...not.
The survey, consisting of 5000 Facebook users, has found that the social media platform is harming relationships and ending marriages, saying that 17% of people said Facebook made them jealous of their partner’s other online relationships.
Also from the survey:
26% said they had argued with their partner because of they felt neglected as updating Facebook was more important to their other half.
44% said Facebook ruined romantic moments, such as candle-lit dinners or walks, as their partner felt the need to update Facebook about it instead of enjoying the moment.
32% said they felt a loss of intimacy in the bedroom because their partner checked Facebook in bed.
22% said Facebook made it easier to keep in touch with people they had met casually. This meant, they said, it was more likely to lead to an affair as a result as they could easily find them and friend them on Facebook and ask them to meet up again.
17% has been tempted to get in touch with an ex-partner with the objective of having an affair.
47% felt they had been guilty of emotional cheating on Facebook
46% said they had monitored a partner’s activity on Facebook due to jealousy.
67% were not surprised that Facebook was cited in increasing numbers of divorce case as evidence of ex-marital affairs.
Tim Rollins, Research Director at Stop Procrastinating, said: "Facebook is a place to meet and keep in touch with friends. Only sometimes those friends are long lost lovers or people you've meet casually and didn't think you'd bump into again. Facebook is designed to you never lose touch with anyone ever again. The result is that more people falling in love on the platform, having affairs and flirting when they shouldn't be."
Don't you wish we could just go back to the way things used to be?
"Do you like me...check yes or no."